What is a Bridesmaid and What Does She Do?

Many things are said about bridesmaids, but what exactly is a bridesmaid and what do they do?

A bridesmaid is a woman chosen by the bride to be an integral part of her wedding party. A bridesmaid, like a groomsman, is also called an attendant because she “attends,” or waits on, the brides. A bridesmaid is a very close friend or sister of the bride. A bridesmaid is chosen for her friendship and support of the marriage.

A bridesmaid or maid of honor (the main attendant) serves as an advisor, confidant, and helper. A bride needs at least one reliable, organized, and cheerful bridesmaid (who is also preferably the maid of honor) who lives close by. The many duties of a bridesmaid include helping the bride shop for wedding attire and accessories, planning the rehearsal diner, and helping the bride dress on the day of the wedding. She is expected to run errands and give advice on decorations, music, and more; plan and often host a bridal shower and maybe a bachelorette party as well; and help the bride stay calm and unruffled by providing moral support at all times. She holds the wedding bouquet during the ceremony. She keeps up to date on everything and lets guests know where the couple is registered, where to send gifts, when they will return from their honeymoon, name changes, and other important information. The bride may also ask her bridesmaid to assist elderly guests, organize vendors, help with seating plans, maintain the guest list, and more.

It is expensive to be a bridesmaid. Expenses include apparel and travel, lodging, meals, and transportation. A bridesmaid may be expected to host a bridal shower and give a shower gift as well as a wedding gift. She may have extra beauty salon, accessory, or event-related expenses as well.

To save money, a bridesmaid can ask others to contribute to the shower, wear a dress she already has if acceptable by the bride, sew her own dress, and stay at the home of friends. Also, if her budget allows it, a bride may pay for some of the bridesmaid’s expenses.

A bachelorette party should be fun for everyone to toast the bride and enjoy both old and new friends. In planning the party, the bridesmaid should keep the preferences of the bride in mind. She should consider what type of entertainment the bride would want, not what she, the bridesmaid would necessarily like. A bachelorette party should be a unique experience that’s a bonding time and loads of fun.

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